Ideal State...
I have to yet research and read about what great people, and great religions say about this topic. But still I would like to note down my own thoughts as they come to me based on my day to day, very normal and usual experiences.
Here I will write about the ideal state in a personal relationship. What nurtures a relationship is love, an unconditional love. And what causes frustration in a relationship, is dependence, or expectations. As when we love some one, we start to have some expectations from our loved ones, may be just to reciprocate what we do unto them. But may be they do reciprocate, but may be their way is different from ours. But since we are expecting a certain pattern of behavior from them, we become frustrated, and that propagates the frustrations in the relationship.
So if I were to define an ideal state of relationship with my loved ones, I would say " If I am able to shower my unconditional love, do as much care as I can, without having my loved ones lose thei